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Default How can I help my partner cope with Leukemia diagnosis? - 12-21-2008, 12:22 PM

My partner has been diagnosed with leukemia (AML) and I am wondering what I can do to help him. I feel so distanced both physically (he is hospitalised indefinately) and emotionally. He seems to want to spare me the indignities of seeing him sick and is not wanting me to visit. I want to respect his wishes and not add to the stress but it goes against the natural response to just be there with him. I know he means to do this as a kind of protecting both himself and me. Is it enough to let him know I will be there for him? The diagnosis was recent and I am so frightened of loosing him, he is the person i would normally talk to about everything but now its all just confusing. Has anyone had experience with this type of leukemia? What helped you cope? Also is the fatality rates so high due to infection?
   
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Default 12-23-2008, 11:08 PM

Just keep on praying, there's nothing impossible to God. Talk to God sincerely and advice your husband to surrender to God completely. I'll include him on my prayers. What's his first name?
   
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Default 12-27-2008, 10:06 AM

I would write him a long letter explaining how you feel. Maybe that will allow him to understand how important it is to you to see him and that he doesn't need to protect you. Whatever the outcome of that letter, your feelings will be on paper and he can read it whenever he is lonely or scared. Good luck to you!
   
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Default 01-03-2009, 08:28 AM

for better,,or for worse,,just be there for him and explain to him that no matter how much pain he( and of course you) is in you want to be there. i know that if i was idenfinatly hospitilized i would feel some comfort having my loved close by. try talking to him about better days that you have shared,,,bringing up the smallest detail you can remember to churn up a smile,,things like that.
   
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Default 01-08-2009, 08:41 AM

I know how he feels about it, I got diagnosed with ALL not long ago. To me the best thing anyone can do for me is first not feel sorry for me and keep telling me we can do this. I know I can do this and that is all we ever need. Second, if I neeed someone to be there, I will ask someone to just talk and fun and what not. It's just to make things easier around here.I've also started a shaving party once I was diagnosed, it's kind of fun to see people that you know and love with a shaved head lolIf he needs anything feel free to email me at paraboy89@aol.com and I would be glad to help both you and him out.Good luck
   
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Default 03-25-2009, 04:31 PM

Sorry to hear about that news(((HUGS))))Sounds like he just wants to"protect"you.Pray for him and just be there for him. I had breast cancer 2x, a yr apart. I wanted people around me. There were times I wanted to be alone, so you have to honor this.Just let him know you want to be with him. This is all new to him too, and tho it affects everyone..no one truly knows unless it has happened to them.Go in there and visit him, even if its a few mins. You don't have to bring up his illness, just talk .GB
   
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