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Default How do you overcome depression caused by the death of a loved-one? - 12-31-2008, 02:41 AM

I have been in a relationship for 3 and a half years, and been living with my girlfriend that just passed on suddenly. I don't have many friends, probably enough for one hand to count. I have been married before for nearly 16 years, and wouldn't have the same amount of depression. I have signed up for berievment counselling and still waiting to. Is there anything else anyone can suggest to me, or even someone just to talk to on my down times. Please help me!!! Suggestions?
   
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Default 01-02-2009, 09:39 AM

only time,time, and more time can even begin to heal the loss of a loved one.. so sorry..
   
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Default 01-07-2009, 03:58 AM

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I too have lost my grandma about 6 years ago to pancreatic cancer. She lived about 1 month after being diagnosed. She was the best women I've ever known and still to this day it's is hard for me. Her and my grandpa, that passed away 2 years ago this month, were married for 50 years and had just reknewed their wedding vows before she passed not knowing at the time she was sick. It is a unfair world we live in but you know they say every thing happens for a reason! You might not know that reason, but it's there. Try to find a hobby you enjoy. Get some car models to put together, or maybe crossword puzzles or something to occupy your time and mind. Medication and therapy also go hand in hand. You want to be an email buddy? Best of luck to you guy and keep your head up!!
   
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Default 01-08-2009, 03:03 AM

Sorry for your loss, I would have to say time will heal, and let yourself grieve, cry, and day by day you will get better...even if you dont feel it..one day you will. In the meantime, counseling is wonderful, because you can make friends you can talk to and can relate to. Also, try to keep busy, read, start up a hobbie, watch funny movies, volunteer at a local hospital or church. Being around people and helping others always helps somehow.Again, sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you.
   
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Default 06-11-2009, 03:02 AM

First, since I have shared many times in those types of situations, you have my deepest sympathy. I know exactly what you are going through. I recently relocated to another state because of the death of my best friend. I was asked to live at his home in order to help his widow and children financially and emotionally. I told them that there is no time limit when the grief will end, don't put yourself on a time table, time is the best instrument you have in overcoming grief. Don't expect to wake up on a certain day and experience an end to all your trauma. While it will gradually become more manageable, you are expected to mourn. That's normal. You will always live with your loss--it's unescapable. Those are the first reality checks you should recognize. Go easy on yourself. You are going through an acceptance stage that she will not be coming back. If you are a man of faith, look at it like this: For each passing day, the time will grow shorter when you will meet her again. It's great that you are going to bereavement counseling. That will help because you will be with others who are undergoing the same issues. You can also meet new friends to relate to and to heal with. Just move on, and understand that emotional trauma of a loss is always hard. You WILL weather the storm. Feel free to email me if you want to. I've faced these problems many times and am well-aware of your pain. Best regards.
   
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Default 07-13-2013, 08:36 AM

Time will help, you might start looking for another girl. Also its important to keep yourself busy, do things, hobbies, sports, and find those friends, talk to them, but not (only) about your loss.
   
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