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Default 04-28-2009, 11:05 PM

Nothing. If she didn’t go through it fine. On the other hand she should not hold it against those who were symptomatic. Hate people who gloat.
   
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Default 05-01-2009, 11:05 PM

Not much you can say in response to that! Obviously she just means that if you keep busy you don’t experience it as badly as others…not necessarily true but that’s been her experience.
   
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Default 05-03-2009, 11:05 PM

So, the woman you refer to is still having periods, is still ovulating, and her ovaries are still producing higher levels of hormones? I don’t see how staying busy would prevent her periods from stopping.

Some women do have some symptoms during promenades;SEhe time before complete menopause, but not all women have symptoms other than irregular periods. Maybe that is what the woman is referring to; maybe she does not have symptoms or is too busy to mind things like night sweats, depression, feeling jittery, etc.
   
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Default 05-04-2009, 11:05 PM

One suspects that you are having a hard time at this time of your life….and have decided for one reason or another that most of the blame is to be placed on menopause. One sympathizes with you that you are having a difficult time.

On the other hand, one gets the idea from your question that you have discussed your woes with your friend and she has been quite dismissive about your complaints and has, perhaps, even suggested to you that her life was so busy that she simply soldiered on and did her best to ignore the problems with her body.

It probably has hurt your feelings…and you sound as though you would like to justify to her that you have not only let menopause keep you from going about your normal daily activities, but you have complained about it to your friends.

My suggestion to you, in the very kindest way I know how to say it, is to remember that many people find it terribly boring, tiresome, and irritating to hear other people complain about physical woes that are not on a par with having been in a serious auto accident….or suffered a serious stroke…..or suffered a serious heart attack.

So, what you say to a woman who has basically already told you that she doesn’t want to hear you complaining anymore about your menopausal woes….and has given you her opinion that most people just exert self-discipline and self-control and manage to continue with their daily routines during menopause…..is not one more word about your menopause, nor anything else about menopause at all.

As I said, am not trying to be rude…and mean it in the kindest way….but your friend has already told you in a way she hoped you would understand….that she considers your using menopause as an excuse not to continue your normal daily activities as self-indulgent….and has told you that the way she looks at it is that one simply soldiers on through it.

So, say nothing else at all about menopause to your friend….she doesn’t want to hear anymore about your menopause.

She probably is NOT saying that she does not believe in menopause…what she is saying is that it is a normal part of the life of a woman….and NOT on a par with heart attacks, serious painful degenerative arthritis, paralysis, strokes, serious diabetes…..and she does not put it in the same category as serious illnesses that one simply cannot soldier through.

As you age, you are going to start experiencing physical woes …and some are going to be much more debilitating and serious that menopause. If you look around and actually consider the physical state of some of your friends….they are dealing with serious and painful health issues….yet manage to exert self-control and self-discipline and carry on their lives in a great deal of pain each and every day.
   
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Default 05-06-2009, 11:05 PM

she maybe right. I did not have much trouble with menopause either
   
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Default 05-11-2009, 11:05 PM

Why say anything? I cannot imagine any reason to express an opinion on that rather personal subject.
   
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Default 05-16-2009, 11:05 PM

It all depends on ones general attitude toward their body and all the changes that occur in the span of life. I also am a very busy person and although I have symptoms from time to time, I’m focused on other things that bring me joy, and not the fact that my body is once again moving on to yet another stage.

Physical fitness, I do yoga, proper diet for our life-stage (I ate way too many sweets over the holidays, so I’m right back to basics.) Sugar and white flour are definitely enemies of good health, so pay attention to that and it does help alleviate menopausal symptoms. Focus on good things-it’s a natural process, so an adjustment in your diet and routine is in order, not drugs and other remedies, (except herbal , if you discuss it with your doctor first.)
   
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Default 05-19-2009, 11:05 PM

I’d say Wake Up. Her perspective, though, I guess could prove some research somewhere that some women’s passage through this inevitable phase is event-less. She might be one of those who doesn’t feel injury pain, either, or thinks objectively about it.
   
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Default 05-21-2009, 11:05 PM

You can say it will happen.
   
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Default 05-24-2009, 11:05 PM

Apparently she has not experienced the effects menopause can have. Surely she is joking. Some women go through it like a breeze, others, it can be debilitating with hot flashes and mood swings. When menopause starts, and if she has even moderate effects, such as hot flashes, she will know it then. Hopefully not. It can be very uncomfortable for many women. She’s going to go through it whether she wants to or not. Being in her late 50s, I would think she has already begun, but everyone is different.
   
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